Mairead is experienced in working with Adults Recovering from Childhood Trauma, Grief and Loss, Anxiety and Depression. Unrealistic expectations are often fuel for unnecessary disappointment in self and others. That, of course, is because love incites a human being to life in the most violent and irresistible of manners. Additionally, loneliness distorts our perceptions of our relationships. Closeness itself becomes a requirement to keep the mind and heart from flagging; knowing and creating joy, fretting and resolving troubles become actions as essential to a fulfilling existence as eating, breathing, and sleeping.
With love another consciousness becomes indispensable, however inscrutable it remains. Unrealistic expectations are often fuel for unnecessary disappointment in self and others. The human becomes a machine, fulfilling duty and requiring nothing for itself. Love creates desire, fans the appetitive self, and encourages a lust for life and happiness alike. When that need is another human being, and the need to be close to that other person, the pain is acute and recurring. You can feel isolated in spite of your many friends and family.
Please see for a more detailed explanation. Inspired by a small extract from the book The School of Life by philosopher and writer , The Darkest Truth About Love by , is one of those videos to watch only during moments of pure happiness, in which you are in peace with love and, above all, with the person you are in love with. Failure to do so may result in a ban. Some things can only be, or are best done alone. Memories of enjoying solitude are only comprehensible when separation is chosen, otherwise it becomes puzzling to imagine how activities previously savored ever satisfied. When reporting, please explain why you think it should be removed.
Joy itself creates a need that the world is too imperfect, too demanding, to sustain with constancy; this while the joy itself becomes a need, rather than something merely desired. Messages should be sent as a modmail to. Pleasure itself produces the pain of its absence, and the ache of its incomplete manifestation. So a video of Winston Churchill playing tennis would be allowed, but a video of Theresa May playing ping-pong would not be. Enhancing Art of Life Counselling is her work in Animal Assisted Psychotherapy with who can be present at any session. If you watch anything today, let it be this video, which I'm confident every one of us can relate to.
But we so rarely address the flip side of that coin. In order to have your post accepted, if you can, find or submit a copy of the video on another website like YouTube or Vimeo and resubmit it. Strive for your greatest potential and focus on your dreams but continue to ask for support when needed, adapt to change when required and be kind to yourself and others in the process of becoming the best that you can be. Mairead was a member of a Mental Health Team in a City Hospital but now specializes in Holistic Counselling Practices including Narrative Therapy, Whole Body Focusing, Creative Arts Therapies and mindfulness practice. Despite that, love makes life feel like it is full of events that ought to be shared, even if that sharing is prevented by occupations and obligations that do not allow that level of contact. Audio over a static image or slideshow may also violate Rule 0. Usually, even when things go as well as they may, both must be experienced.
. Bridging the distinct and separate character inherent to independent human minds, both knowing and being known, become not optional and amusing but sustaining and needful activities. Of course, not exactly a dreamlike vision about the question, but it will not be difficult for you to identify yourself in this video of simple and sad truths. Art of Life Counselling: The Darkest Truth About Love : It can be coming to terms with life's realities that offers us the best coping skills. Its many benefits are innumerable. Fake information , 123 fake street, etc also falls under this rule. Simply deleting your post may cause the spam filter to catch future ones.
Absence creates an inescapable feeling of life being incomplete. Strive for your greatest potential and focus on your dreams but continue to ask for support when needed, adapt to change when required and be kind to yourself and others in the process of becoming the best that you can be. If the video has a watermark, it also may be licensed by a third party. De Botton, often accused of having a black vision about feelings, has always defended himself by saying that pessimism is the best friend of love and that we must know that pain and conflict are normal, not the exception. Failure to connect, failure to find adequate time together creates a bodily discomfort that reinforces the assessment that something is fundamentally wrong with the day that was lived; a need that did not previously exist asserts its necessity as insistently as any other force that sustains life.
Loneliness can even be as damaging as cigarette smoking, says Psychology Today, because of its physical attacks on our bodies. Needs, when unmet, cause pain. So how might this look and feel? Some may argue that the most fundamental experience of the human condition is our desire, on one level or another, to feel a deep and uniting. Direct links to major video sites are preferred e. Desire arises, is acute, must be heeded or suffered.